It always upsets me when I see a couple out to dinner who, as soon as they seat, take out their phones and immerse themselves in to their cyber worlds of Facebook, Twitter, and texting as opposed to enjoying each other’s company. Same for a group of friends who are out and about yet rarely interact amongst themselves.
For example, the other day I was at the mall and saw a group of three teen aged girls walk out of a store, shopping bags strapped to their arms, and each vigorously smashing the buttons on their blackberries. For some reason it bugged me a lot. I wanted to walk up to them, point a disapproving finger in their faces, and yell, “What the hell is wrong with you guys?! You’re two feet away from each other yet you choose to stare at your stupid two inch screens, typing on your stupid ant-sized buttons, with your stupid “LOL”s and “XOXO”‘s HUH?!”
But, naturally, instead of sharing this observation with the couple of buddies I was with, I flipped out my phone, popped open the Facebook app, and vented my despondency via Facebook status.
Damn it, Michael…
I mean, don’t get me wrong – I looove technology. It’s awesome, it’s hip, and makes my life easier.
I’m down for it.
But nowadays, it seems like we’re in more of relationship with technology rather than with actual people. It can get very… eerie, in some extreme cases. Like, it creates a facade – the person behind the phone versus the actual person.
For instance, ever meet someone, exchange #’s, chat with them for a while and think, “Duuude, this person’s friggin awesome! Really funny and down to earth!”
Then you’re so happy for your new found friendship that you have to meet them up for lunch… and that person ends up being nothing like the person you’ve been chatting with through text: shy, quiet, and doesn’t really stir much besides the occasional “hehe” to your blatantly hilarious jokes (that obviously deserve a much grander response…). You then squint your eyes in suspicion and give this person a death glare:
Who are you, imposter, and what did you do with my text buddy?
It’s ironic how something that is meant to keep us forever connected with everything can disconnect us with those who we are physically with.
What it effects (affects? whatever.) most is relationships:
How do you meet someone? Add them as a friend on Facebook?
*writes on wall* “heeeeeey. you don’t know me but uh, yeeeeah just saw your profile picture. who are we kidding? you’re attractive, i’m attractive, we should meet up sometime!”
Get their number, wait the appropriate three-days-pretending-I’ve-been-too-busy-with-life-and-other-obligations-to-contact-you-until-now period, and then text them?
“hey! how are you? :)”
*30 minutes goes by with no response*
Me: “OH GOD, OH GOD…”
Have the days of actually interacting with someone gone extinct?
What happened to the days where you hung off of a 50-foot Ferris wheel to land a date with a girl?
Or planted a field full of daffodils in front of her house just to grab her attention?
Or spent all day trying to illegally buy alcohol, getting your obnoxiously nerdy friend arrested, getting hit by a car, stealing a party’s beer in detergent containers, and running away from cops all in the name of
getting laid before college love?
You: Dude, Michael, you are completely correct. I fear that future generations will lack in any basic communication skills since they are always glued to their electronic devices. I hope that -
Hey, would you shut up real quick? That chick finally texted me back.